Are you exploring who you are?
Sexuality is a rich, interesting area to work with because it’s not just something we do, it’s also “who we are,” “what we have gone through” and a source of information about “how we feel.” Taking a curious, non-pathological exploration into these three areas of sexuality can be very empowering.
I am highly interested and like working with people to help them discover who they really are.
I do not advertise myself as a LBGTQI, sex positive therapist, even though I am one. It’s never occurred to me, not once in my whole life, to not accept all types of loving relationships as valid, real and important. I have worked with many diverse types of same sex and heterosexual couples and continue to be open to do so.
The only discriminator/differentiator I do have is that I’m biased towards working with monogamy as the long term goal for couples who decide to commit. Not because I think this the only way to go, and it’s not a moral issue. Deep intimacy built over time within the constraints of monogamy is my own dominant attachment style, so I don’t want to bias someone else that is more drawn towards open relationships. I have done some work with polyamorous couples that has been productive, but I tend to recommend other therapists if couples really want guidance in this area.
Taking a curious, non-pathological exploration into these three areas of sexuality can be very empowering.