Couples therapy is one of those things most people don’t think about until they need it and assume it’s all the same. A “ho hum,” neutral or negative experience, is often seen as a given.
We all know relationships are complex. I’ve been fascinated with studying this complexity close up by working with thousands of clients in private practice. I’ve also studied the counseling process itself, what strategies work and how. I’ve built an encyclopedia of knowledge about how people in relationships think, feel and behave.
How you create the story of your identity, how you interact with psychiatric conditions, how grief and abandonment impact your nervous system, how trauma is resolved or buried, how sexuality tells your history, how conflict reveals your true desires.
Working from deep knowledge and intuition, I am efficient.
I am also offended by low expectations, which is usually the result of being trained to expect disappointing outcomes from an early disappointing family. It’s not personal, setting low expectations was just a survival mechanism that you can now shed as an adult.
It’s rude to all involved to not the set the bar higher. We start from the opposite. Being truly happy is so much better than living a life “that’s not so bad.” I want my clients to want more and know what their ideal actually feels like.