I sit for hours listening to people trying to make sense of their love-life. Very often, they reflect back and wonder, “what was I thinking?” or “I should have known better” as if good rational thought is the key to stave off heartbreak. Personally, I was exactly the same, but have learned that these questions are our attempt to deal with the sting of a relationship’s end. It’s funny though how we often transform feelings of loss into feelings that we “failed” or was failed by another. It seems as humans we need to make sense and learn from experience and deflect pain. We ask our head to take care of our heart.

We can, however, be more conscious when preparing for and existing within a relationship. Dating, as opposed to a long term relationship, is an ideal format to mature and learn more about your own boundaries, idiosyncrasies, and how to appreciate the vulnerability of others.

It is difficult, however, to harness all this rich psychological growth when you are too lonely. Dating can challenging, disappointing and boring, punctuated with high spikes of excitement. Working together we can bolster your stamina, clarity and vulnerability, and help you choose better, all elements needed to thrive.

Conscious dating means observing, staying curious, open and non-judgmental (especially towards yourself).

Consultations include:

  • Theories of Attraction: What’s my real type?
  • Theories of Attraction: Who am I attracting?
  • Theories of Compatibility: With Whom would I fit best?
  • Preferences not Morality
  • Biochemical Influences of Mating & Dating
  • Family Systems Influences
  • Mating Desires, Future Lifestyle Factors
  • Characteristic Preferences
  • Maturity
  • Baggage/Fears/Loss History
  • How Respond to Fears
  • Defenses?
  • Open hearted vs. Closed Hearted?
  • Personal Assessment: Do I possess the qualities I’m attracted to in another? Am I good on my own? Is my lifestyle where I want it to be?
  • Dating Approach
  • Researcher Model
  • Define Criteria (Broad vs. Boutique Item) targeted selection vs. fear of “missing out,” (not get too distracted by shiny objects)

Sound good?

Contact me for an initial consultation. I’m happy to speak with you.

When taken seriously, therapy is a real investment in life transformation. It’s not just about feeling better. It’s about removing burdens that have been holding you back perhaps your whole life. This translates to improved relationships, being more attractive, and often raising your income earning potential. ‍

I take your investment of money, time and trust very seriously. I started my career with the intention of providing excellent service and have never wavered. My rates, non-insurance affiliation, intensive services and continued commitment to my own life’s joy reflect these fundamental values.