What Can I do On My Own to Improve My Relationship?

September 17, 2018

Preventive Care & Investment

Negative Lifestyle Costs

Price

$150/ hr X 2 month = $300 x 12 months = $3,600
Divorce
$5,000 - $10,000
DWI
$5,000.00
Weekly meals planner
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Weights lifting plan
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Fat burning cardio workout
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Monthly health monitoring
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment

Love

  1. 1. Verbally narrate your emotions, not just irritation, so your partner has insight into your feelings.
  2. 2. Eye contact is love. Curiosity without judgement is love.
  3. 3. Remind each other of past happy memories and adventures. Take a break from the daily grind.
  4. 4. Try to see yourself positively through your partner’s eyes. Avoid projecting on them if you are feeling bad about yourself.
  5. 5. Be generous with loving. If you feel stingy, investigate why, don’t just dismiss or put yourself down.

Preventive Care & Investment

Negative Lifestyle Costs

Price

$150/ hr X 2 month = $300 x 12 months = $3,600
Divorce
$5,000 - $10,000
DWI
$5,000.00
Weekly meals planner
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Weights lifting plan
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Fat burning cardio workout
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment
Monthly health monitoring
Medical health assessment
Medical health assessment

Conflict

  1. 6. Banish sarcastic, passive aggressive comments. Say what you mean.(If you can’t imagine this being feasible, a thorough relationship evaluation is in order).
  2. 7. Use direct “I statements” with a generous interpretation: “I am sure you didn’t mean anything, but I got my feelings hurt about xyz. I just wanted you to know so it’s not swept under the rug. I don’t want to be passive aggressive.”
  3. 8. Wrap it up with love and affection: “Thank you for listening. I really appreciate your time and respect.”
  4. 9. Memorize Steps:
  1. Identify feelings directly.
  2. Interpret and discuss feelings with partner with generosity + respect.  
  3. Make up and move forward. Seal the deal.
  4. Evaluate if either person still feels resentment, restart steps.
  1. 10. Resolving conflict well increases sex-love-trust, so embrace the opportunity when confusions arise!

Latest Blog Topics

Reflections on Being a Therapist, 18 Years and What’s Next?

Read More

Considering Couples Therapy? Why Not Travel Instead?

Read More

Love Sex Trust: Tune in. Turn on.

Read More
View All Posts

Sound good? Contact me for an initial consultation.
I’m happy to speak with you.

Schedule Your Appointment